Making new friends is tough; whether you’re a kid in school or an adult looking to change up your social scene, it can be a very intimidating experience. I’m not ready to get back into the dating world, but I do want to meet new people and explore desert living like never before. I recently joined the social media app Meetup to get acquainted with other like-minded individuals, and make some new connections. I joined the group for “20’s & 30’s who live in the desert full-time”, since the valley is a seasonal destination this group is actually made up of permanent residents looking to expand their social circle.
Just three short months ago I was super excited to be living back in the Bay Area, partly because I would be returning to a solid friendship base with people who became like members of my family and helped shape the person I am today. Well as we all know that move ended rather abruptly, and I now find myself back in the small town I grew up in trying to plug into the social pipeline. I realized almost immediately that I have drifted apart from some of the friends I grew up with, and while they are still dear to my heart, there’s no denying that we are in different places in our lives. Most of my friends here are either content with their social circle, or too afraid to get outside of their comfort zone and meet new people. Herein lies the dilemma.
I have learned in the four weeks I’ve been back in the valley that I want more from this desert life. While I was in college I perfected the triangle routine of work-school-home and told myself I would never live that kind of life again, if I could help it of course. I want and deserve more out of life then just some boring pattern. So I’ve decided to spread my wings and be the social butterfly I’ve blossomed into these last few years and really try to make the most of my situation. I want to be daring, inviting, adventurous, and explore the desert as a woman who knows what she wants.
I am determined to make my time here in the desert worthwhile, throw caution to the wind, and make fulfilling life choices. I want to meet new people who are excited about life, spontaneous, open-minded, and bold. I want to make genuine connections with people and discover new things about myself. I want to be enlightened, laugh uncontrollably, uncover hidden gems, and put my best self out there in hopes that I’ll get so much more in return. Every day I am trying to find reasons to smile, be open to new possibilities, and be grateful for all of the good things I have in my life.
I went on my first venture with my Meetup group a little over a week ago and I am really glad I did it. We met at an In-n-Out and carpooled to Huntington Beach, my favorite SoCal spot where we spent the afternoon tanning, chatting, and taking in the sights and sounds. It was the perfect beach day. My friend Lori ended up meeting up with us and I decided to drive back with her since the car we took was a little snug on the ride in. I made a really cool connection with a woman going through a similar transition period in her life and we exchanged numbers. I’ll be attending another event tomorrow, and feel like this is a step in the right direction.
I am excited for what the future has in store. I am still recovering from a broken-heart and fully aware that time heals all wounds, so I figure why not try and fill the time with as much joy as possible. I believe happiness is a choice, and that I deserve to live an amazing life surrounded by great people who add to it in ways I could barely comprehend. I’m embracing the unknown, putting myself out there, and hoping for the best. Cheers to friendship and new beginnings…